My dear Jan, I'm glad Hank is resigned to you doing the driving. It can be a real war sometimes. You need all the help you can get and if that is a big load off of you, then that is great.
I know I had a time with Kens dad when I was there, day in and day out. I heard his truck crank up one day and I flew out of that house so fast you would think I had wings!! I asked him where he was going and he said he was just seeing if it would crank!! I know what he was doing, he was checking to see if one of his sons had disabled the trucks and car!! Yes, we had a time with him.
now my own Mom desided on her own about not driving. When we found out she had a brain tumor they did brain surgery. That was her decision whether to do surgery or not It was malignant. When brother drove her back from the hospital she told him that she guessed that meant she wouldn't be driving anymore. She told him to take her car to his house.
Now MIL, that was a different story. She was dificult about everything. Bless her, I knew it was the disease, but that didn't help the one that was attached at the hip with her. Some mighty hard days. you girls helped me thru it and I'm thankful every day of my life.
Ging, it sounds like you are having a time. I hope you were able to talk with your sons Thanksgiving. the 1st time I took MIL to the Neuro Dr. he told her she had Alzheimers D. He told her to get her affairs in order. After that it was like pulling teeth to get her to do anything that needed to be done.
Jeannie, I know it is going hard for you right now. My heart hurts for all of you. Pati, you have a chit load of stuff on you right now. I pray you will have the strength to make decisions that family don't want to do themselvs. Many times when one does make decisions the whole family will get angry at you. I mean KIN family too. Just do what you know is right because they Don't know. They don't come around enough to know. I think about you often.
So many of you have things going down that hill real fast. Please remember I am here and if I
can just listen let me know. I love you all. jo s
ps:Pati, I was in your shoes so to speak. I had no authority to make any decisions, but I had to make some and the family still have nothing to do with me. Had I not done some things it would have been pure hell. When Mary was dying I was treated like an outsider. My name wasn't even in the obituary. that kinda stung, but its done and no reason for me to hold a grudge.
I know I had a time with Kens dad when I was there, day in and day out. I heard his truck crank up one day and I flew out of that house so fast you would think I had wings!! I asked him where he was going and he said he was just seeing if it would crank!! I know what he was doing, he was checking to see if one of his sons had disabled the trucks and car!! Yes, we had a time with him.
now my own Mom desided on her own about not driving. When we found out she had a brain tumor they did brain surgery. That was her decision whether to do surgery or not It was malignant. When brother drove her back from the hospital she told him that she guessed that meant she wouldn't be driving anymore. She told him to take her car to his house.
Now MIL, that was a different story. She was dificult about everything. Bless her, I knew it was the disease, but that didn't help the one that was attached at the hip with her. Some mighty hard days. you girls helped me thru it and I'm thankful every day of my life.
Ging, it sounds like you are having a time. I hope you were able to talk with your sons Thanksgiving. the 1st time I took MIL to the Neuro Dr. he told her she had Alzheimers D. He told her to get her affairs in order. After that it was like pulling teeth to get her to do anything that needed to be done.
Jeannie, I know it is going hard for you right now. My heart hurts for all of you. Pati, you have a chit load of stuff on you right now. I pray you will have the strength to make decisions that family don't want to do themselvs. Many times when one does make decisions the whole family will get angry at you. I mean KIN family too. Just do what you know is right because they Don't know. They don't come around enough to know. I think about you often.
So many of you have things going down that hill real fast. Please remember I am here and if I
can just listen let me know. I love you all. jo s
ps:Pati, I was in your shoes so to speak. I had no authority to make any decisions, but I had to make some and the family still have nothing to do with me. Had I not done some things it would have been pure hell. When Mary was dying I was treated like an outsider. My name wasn't even in the obituary. that kinda stung, but its done and no reason for me to hold a grudge.
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