I think it might be easier in today's world...we can google cyclops child to be able to see what the condition really looks like. (I admit it, I did) A person would be able to prepare for seeing the condition in 'real life'...to get over the shock of it and be able to provide comfort. I don't think it would be a surprise today like it was at the birth back then...they would see the deformity on the 18 wk ultrasound. Hopefully at that point, doctors/nurse/social workers would discuss things over together with the family and everyone would be prepared instead of the doctor in charge making a splitsecond decision to lie at time of birth. It's been my observation that women seem to have the values of compassion more often than men. I always think about that when I am at the hospital-how many more moms I see vs dads. I know for sure in my own home, the caregiving is mostly done by me. Though Brian does a lot with the boys. I always wonder if Caitlin were a boy, would he do more stuff with her or would it still be me? I think there are young people out there that are very compassionate...I am lucky Brian's sister has a special bond with Caitlin. Nothing bothers her at all! She sees the child not the medical condition. Even when C was in her hip surgery frame, she was over here helping lift and entertain C. And his brother's wife volunteers and spends time with a boy with downs syndrome. can't think of any male caregiving examples in my life...I remember when Brian's grandma was in a nursing home it seemed like his mom & aunt were always there and the uncles were not. Anyway, I would hope that in today's world, if such a baby were born and had decision made not to treat, that there would be protocol in place to do comfort care....like Donna suggested, the volunteer baby holders, etc. Especially since nowadays, it would not be a surprise at birth. I think that doctor in the article had to think of the baby as not human to justify how poorly they all treated the baby....and that was wrong.