I'll answer as many questions as I can. Honey has always been afraid of thunder since she was a puppy. The vet told me to give her 2 Benydryl and it does seem to quiet her down a bit but it takes about 20 minutes before it works. I've never thought of giving her Valerian. When she was younger I trained her to the crate also but as she got older she was able to destroy the latch on the crate doors and get out. She stays in our kitchen part of the time and I have an iron child gate up on the doorframe. If we are away which we were today...out to eat lunch....and it comes a thunderstorm....which it did middle of the day...we came back home to find she had knocked down the iron gate.
She didn't bother a thing and I had left a cup of coffee almost full on the end table. I was glad she didn't get into that as dogs are not supposed to drink coffee or eat chocolate. We had left all the bedroom doors open and she usually gets my shoes to bring to me but not today. When she was a pup she got into my coffee and it was evident that she really liked it. Then I found out that dogs shouldn't drink coffee. My dear husband went out on a Sunday afternoon 9 years and was gone for 2-3 hours and brought Honey home. I think he got her to cheer me up as I had just been diagnosed with MS. She was 8 weeks old. I have been able to teach her to sit in front of me when I need to get out of the recliner and I grab her collar and she will pull me up. She weighs about 95#'s now. She also will signal me when she needs to go out by going to door leading to the outside and putting her nose in the corner. My husband was taking her out for her walks but is not able to do that anymore so she has gained about 10-15 pounds.
My first auto-immune disease was Hashimoto's and then it was a domino effect. I understand from research that it is not uncommon to have more than one. The neuro is baffled at the moment as the symptoms overlap and nothing he has tried has helped. I am homebound and in the bed more than I am up. When I am up it is to go to eat or the doctor. I'm sure a lot of you here can relate.