((((((Dave)))))) ~
I'm so glad that my words comforted you. I have too much experience with profound grief, and I know how debilitating it can be. We have to strive for balance between feeling our grief and finding our coping tools. The worst thing we can do is stuff down our feelings, hold back our tears, and pretend that we're okay.
Because we're not okay, especially when our grief is fresh and raw. We need time to work through our grief, to identify ways to heal and to find peace with our grief.
Your initial reaction is so common in grieving. "If only I'd done this, said that, been there ..." Those recriminations and guilt will not bring back our loved one, and our loved one wouldn't want us to blame ourselves. Again, if the roles were reversed, I wouldn't want my loved ones to blame themselves.
So, we need to work on letting that go, in order to move forward. You're right, "it was not to be."
Be gentle with yourself, and give yourself time to recover from the shock of losing your dear friend.
You're in my thoughts and prayers, Dave.
Love & Light,
Rose
I'm so glad that my words comforted you. I have too much experience with profound grief, and I know how debilitating it can be. We have to strive for balance between feeling our grief and finding our coping tools. The worst thing we can do is stuff down our feelings, hold back our tears, and pretend that we're okay.
Because we're not okay, especially when our grief is fresh and raw. We need time to work through our grief, to identify ways to heal and to find peace with our grief.
Your initial reaction is so common in grieving. "If only I'd done this, said that, been there ..." Those recriminations and guilt will not bring back our loved one, and our loved one wouldn't want us to blame ourselves. Again, if the roles were reversed, I wouldn't want my loved ones to blame themselves.
So, we need to work on letting that go, in order to move forward. You're right, "it was not to be."
Be gentle with yourself, and give yourself time to recover from the shock of losing your dear friend.
You're in my thoughts and prayers, Dave.
Love & Light,
Rose
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